We discussed the first part of this article here. Therein we emphasized on what to do. In this part 2 of the same theme, we look basically at how to start. In discovering your passion and purpose in life, it is necessary to not only know what to do but also how to do it. This then will enable you to fine-tune your growth as it is supposed to be.
Consider the following
Know what to do, so you can do what you want:
To understand what you really want, you need to follow a process that will lead you to that. You have to consider the following:
Awareness: First, take a mental picture of where you are now and compare it with a picture of where you want to be. This will enable you to have an awareness of what you really need to be where you want. You will become aware of the necessary choices, values and habits you need to inculcate so as to reach your desired goal. A person who intends to go to Lagos but finds himself heading to Aba must first realize he’s heading to Aba, not Lagos and from there he will make the right choice to turn to Lagos possibly through the nearest route. You cannot change direction if you are first not aware of where you are going to – that is self-awareness.
Thus, spend time in evaluating and ensuring that you are following the right steps. Every step you make must be done in the right direction. You may not know what to do, but how will you know if what you are doing is the right thing if you do not try it out first. That takes us to the next step – action
Take action: Action speaks louder than the intention of the heart. No matter how good your intentions are, they cannot win unless they are first put into action. Thus, one should continually take actions that will draw them closer to their goals. Taking action means taking initiative. Creativity is a necessary part of meaning action. You have to take initiative, become creative and try out new things.
Accountability: The best way to make yourself accountable to your goals is by making it public. When you tell others what you intend to do, it puts you in pressure of really doing that. You can request a specific individual to be your accountability partner or you keep a journal to check your accountability. Write down your process daily and your missteps when you do not meet up with your goals. This accountability will help you to be more conscious of your goals and work towards it.
Attraction: When you have achieved the first three steps above, then you must begin to produce the relevant behaviour that will attract what you desire close to you. John Mason in his Law of Magnetism rightly avers that “who you are is who you attract”.
It is necessary for you to surround yourself with people who have similar goals as you. This will help you encourage and correct one another. Even the Bible testifies that “Iron sharpens iron”.
Know people who do what you would like to do:
Mentorship in the growth of any kind cannot be neglected nor even be over-emphasized. Most of my influences as a person have always been from individuals that I have looked up to as role models. Some of these models are people I have met, while others are people I have not met.
You have to start finding people who do what you want to do with excellence. You can meet them one-on-one, for guidance, or you can meet them through an exchange of emails or even through their works if they have written books. My interests in writing have a lot of the influence of John Mason, Myles Moure, Oswald Sanders, Johnny Carson, Max Lucado, Thomas Aquinas, St. Augustine, Benedict XVI and a host of others. The life of Jesus Christ remains my primary model, and that of saints like Anthony of Padua, Maria Faustina and others.
The choice of who to mentor you is all yours. You have to pick and choose carefully and then you must follow the instructions they give you. Especially by asking relevant questions and performing the right actions. Ensure you committed in your pursuit. Be consistent and creative and ensure you do not fall into laziness that comes in the form of boredom.
Pay the price to do what you want:
Taking the right step to do that which you wish to do, will cost you greatly. You will have to work hard and make some sacrifices to achieve that. Jesus tells us that the Kingdom of God is like a man who finds a fine pearl and then goes home, sells all he has and bought the pearl. That is the kind of sacrifice that is needed for you to achieve that you so much desired to achieve. You have to keep learning and keep growing. The unfortunate thing is that many people want the prize but they are not ready to pay the price.
Start doing what you would like to do:
Ask people when they will do what they want to do, they would tell you, “someday”. From “someday” to “no day”. One of the reasons why this is so is because some people think that everything has to be alright and in place before they start. No! It is not so. Just start first and let things fix itself along the line. Nobody ever got ready by waiting. You have to get ready by starting.
In sum, when you have done that which you wanted to do, it would become more difficult than you ever imagined. You may have a tighter schedule, more demanding and conflicting interests coming up and more stress. On the other hand, it would make you feel better – more than you ever imagined. Your life in leadership will become a lesson to others. People will meet you for mentorship because you have passed through the crucibles and turn out to become a better person.
Remember that there are two great days in the life of a person: the day you are born and the day you discover why. I encourage you to seek and discover the why of your existence – the purpose and passion of your life. Not just from your own perspective but from the perspective of God who is your creator.